Editor’s Note: A fine example of work-life integration.
I have been blessed with some outstanding mentors. The first was encountered while in medical school. I, who began my career as a physical therapist, aspired to become a cardiologist. While on an orthopedic rotation, my future mentor told me “you’re supposed to be an orthopedic surgeon”. He then offered me an opportunity to participate with him on a research project to enhance my qualifications for an orthopedic residency position.
Years later, after having been offered a faculty position in my residency program, my fellowship mentor encouraged me not to accept the position. He said that I should start my own program and not “stay in someone’s shadow”. This was very valuable advice and moved me on in a positive direction.
While negotiating to start my own division at my eventual place of work, another advisor accurately predicted my future career trajectory. He described how I could position myself strategically to achieve my blossoming leadership goals.
Yet another of my mentors and I became friends and also became pregnant around the same time. We shared that physical experience and she assisted in promoting the development of my professional and personal confidence.
Finally, I am currently privileged to be part of a special group of peers of both genders. We discuss difficult cases and personal issues at our meetings. We also bring our families to each gathering. Mornings are spent on professional issues. Afternoons are spent collectively with the families. They have gotten to know each other over the years. This group allows us to create a work-life integration with our professional and personal lives. It is through these integrated communities that we are able to sustain a level of balance. We have now developed an enriching community that has quadrupled in size.
To my peers and those in training, I encourage you to find those who can see your strengths are unselfish enough to invest in your professional development. Later, you can do the same for others. By making a place for professional and family lives to coexist harmoniously, you can integrate the best parts of yourselves.
One other suggestion. If you are struggling with an adverse major life event, discuss it with a confidant(s). Holding the emotions in as you negotiate difficult territory can have an adverse effect on your professional and perhaps, surgical performance. Sharing that you need some space time to deal with your personal challenge is entirely appropriate and should not be discouraged. Use the community you have taken time to build when support is needed.